Love Versus Sex: Romantic Beliefs That Destroy Your Sex Life

Margie Nichols, Ph.D.By Margie Nichols, Ph.D

  Jack Morin says the thing that derails the sex life of long-term couples is the romantic myths they adhere to.  Below I’ve listed the most common myths we associate with love.  Take the test below:

Read the following assertions- check which ones you believe:

If he/she loves me, he/she will

• know how to please me sexually without my saying or showing

• always be turned on to me when I’m turned on to them

• know instinctively when I DON’T want sex and not ask

• be able to keep my level of sexual desire high no matter how long we’ve been together

• be able to make sex hot under any conditions

• never be attracted to anyone else

• never masturbate, view porn, or engage in sexuality, even solo, that does not include me

• never fantasize about anything or anyone else, especially during sex with me

• always gaze into my eyes during sex

• never ask for any sexual activity that makes me anxious

• always like any sexual activity I want

• be easy for me to turn on and give pleasure to

• make me come; come at the same time as me

• be a skilled lover ‘naturally’

All of these beliefs are not only false, but destructive.Some of you reading may still hold some of these ideas.  People with satisfying sex lives probably overcame most of these false assumptions.

How many do you still believe?

In another blog article, I’ll tell you why they are myths.

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