Talkin’ Teen Sex Part 2

Margie Nichols, Ph.D.by Margie Nichols, Ph.D.

Well, it didn’t take long for me to nix the Sinclair Institute DVD idea. For one thing, in the atmosphere of hysteria that surrounds anything combining under-age minor and sex in the same sentence in the U.S., the DYFS fear isn’t all that paranoid. But, more importantly, I realized that I don’t want to inadvertently send a message that I think it’s okay for a 12 year old (or 15 year old) to be watching real-life movies of sex acts on anything more than a one-time educational basis. I don’t want my ideology to get in front of common sense. Even if I can’t ultimately prevent it, I don’t want to do anything to encourage viewing porn when the real message I want to be sending is –I’ll help you understand sex, but you are too young, too tender, too wounded to be ready for it now. For now, I’m gonna become an expert on really good books and DVD’s about sex for teens. And try to keep that conversation coming, try to stay one beat ahead of my daughter’s challenges.

But even as I make this decision, I’m so upset that I have to, that after all these years it is still difficult to be an adolescent girl and deal with your sexuality.

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