If you are a “rageaholic”, you may be unable to control or even to recognize your angry feelings; it may take little to trigger your anger, and each anger outburst probably appears justified to you. Your anger may subside as quickly as it appears, and you can be left feeling baffled as to why others seem so upset with you. However, if you have an anger problem you can harm your family, your relationships, your career and your health – anger is directly correlated with Coronary Heart Disease. Road-rage, verbal attacks on co-workers or loved ones, even domestic violence are some common examples of anger management problems.
If you have a problem with excessive anger, you may come to treatment mostly because someone else – your boss, your spouse, the legal system – wants you there. If this is the case, the first step in treatment is to help you to see yourself as others see you and come to terms with the effects your anger has on others. Next, in treatment, we will teach you to identify triggers that set off your anger, and to substitute helpful responses for angry ones. We believe that anger is usually a secondary emotion; often what underlies anger is hurt or fear and, in general, expressing these emotions is more productive than expressing rage. We will teach you to identify and deal with these feelings – anger, pain or fear – in safe and non-destructive ways that can radically transform your relationships and overall quality of life.
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