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How To Properly Deal With A Partner Who Has A Sex Addiction

Before we can deal with a partner with a sex addiction, we first have to get clear on what a sex addiction is.  Although many people think so, people who look at porn, fantasize about varied sexual experiences,  have high sexual libidos,  masturbate a lot,  have been unfaithful, or have had many sexual partners are not necessarily sex addicts. An addiction is when someone uses an activity (e.g. drinking, gambling, sex) inappropriately in the place of an otherwise appropriate coping skill.  So for example you hate your job and you hate your boss so you get drunk every night to forget about it.  Or, you feel powerless in your life so you go to massage parlors where the people there cater to your every whim making you feel powerful. Sex addiction is not different from any other addiction, so to determine if someone has an addiction there are some questions that need answering:  Does the person engage in this activity to the detriment of other life responsibilities?  Is the person able to stop the activity without experiencing excessive anxiety or withdrawal?  Has the person experienced negative consequences due to engaging in the activity, legal or otherwise? In the case of… Read more »