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by Margie Nichols, Ph.D. – From this feminist’s perspective, Dan Bergner’s new book, What Do Women Want? is an intriguing and important look at female sexuality. Read my blog about it, and why it validates a theory proposed by Dr. Mary Jane Sherfey in the 1970’s. https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/feminist-sexologist-review-of-dan-bergners-what-do-women-want-0627134
by Margie Nichols Daniel Bergner’s new book, ‘What Do Women Want?’, is getting a lot of attention, with glowing reviews on Salon.com and the cover of a recent New York Times Sunday Book Review section. Not all reviews have been positive, but it’s pretty clear his book has shaken up some people. One take-home…
by Margie Nichols In Part 1 I maintain that sexual compatibility is way more important in making a (monogamous) relationship satisfying than we realize. And the more I wrote, the more I realized that the vestigial Puritan fear/distaste of sex our culture carries not only makes it hard to admit that you really, really, really…
by Margie Nichols, Ph.D. I’ve been following the E-Harmony debate with interest. No, not the controversy about their CEO’s stupid anti-gay remarks. I mean the scientific debate, about the truth of the site’s claims that it is able to match people for maximum relationship compatibility. E-Harmony has a proprietary algorithm that apparently matches people on…
by Margie Nichols, Ph.D. On January 22, 2013, Lisa Ling premiered her third season of ‘Our America,’ her documentary series on the Oprah Winfrey Network, with ‘Shades of Kink,’ an exploration of BDSM. I was the ‘expert’ featured on the show, and I was apprehensive about how this very sensitive topic would be handled. But…
by Margie Nichols, Ph.D. Last November, Harvard’s approval of a BDSM club on campus sparked news stories about the prevalence of these organizations on college campuses, and the predictable backlash against them. Some articles wrote of what seemed like an upsurge of rapes –non consensual BDSM sex, or kinky sex that violated someone’s ‘boundaries’ or…
by Margie Nichols “Our America with Lisa Ling” – Shades of Kink – airs on OWN (the Oprah Winfrey Network) on Tuesday, January 22 at 10 p.m. ET/PT. Last Fall, I had the pleasure of being interviewed by Ms. Ling, whose critically acclaimed show begins its fourth season on the Oprah Winfrey Network . She’s tackling the…
by Margie Nichols, Ph.D. I’ve been watching media reports on kink ever since ‘Fifty Shades’ made the subject popular, and I ran across one of the more heinous recently, a blog by an educator named Judy Molland questioning whether the current trend of college campuses to develop BDSM support organizations, in the manner of LGBTQ…
By Margie Nichols, Ph.D. I’m frustrated by hearing sex experts tell people to ‘communicate better’ about sex. I’m impatient with advice to ‘tell your partner what you want.’ For one thing, many people don’t know what they want. Even those who can be pretty specific tend to know only what they want OUT OF THE THINGS…
by Margie Nichols, Ph.D. “The bonds of wedlock are so heavy that sometimes it takes three to carry them” quipped Esther Perel, author of ‘Mating in Captivity,’ quoting Alexander Dumas. Acclaimed psychotherapist Perel did a workshop for the IPG staff in September. We love her because she always has a fresh and unique take on things. …
